Hey there! How's it going? Wanna talk S&M today? The Tantra version of it? Listen; the only version that anyone should EVER start with, is the S&M of Tantra. Yes, my sexy, lusty followers, there is S&M with the lifestyle of Tantra.
What if I were to tell you there was another kind of level of sexual connection? What if I told you that when you connect at a spiritual level "S", you transcend into a new level of sexual being? This is the level of contentment within yourself and with the world around you. What if I told you that if you could learn to find contentment at this level, the magic,"M" law of attraction for abundance of positive sexual energy and sexual love would drop on your doorstep?
Here comes a novel twist on a sex term usually thought to include tops, bottoms and bondage. Most lovers associate S&M with sadomasochism. Viewed from a Tantric perspective, however, this term takes on a completely different tinge from its presumed, bottom baring, hip smacking meaning!
Still, you may wonder, why is she talking about S&M now and connecting that to Tantra? For starters, both practices engage with what are commonly thought of as extreme awareness of all your sensory behaviors in life; to induce ecstasy & bliss. But with all fairness however, I'm here to once again voice and tell you that I define Tantra S&M as something quite different from the standard. When we lean towards S&M with Tantra, these two letters, now mean Spiritual Magic, which has a completely different kind of energy.
I"m not saying that some aspects of traditional S&M don’t enter into the Tantra sacred sex play. Spiritual Magic (S&M) is about learning how to fully surrender and be of service to your partner. Each person plays a part or a role for the other. One takes on the role of submissive and the other of dominant or of being in control. I prefer to brand it as controlled sex, to nourish lovers play! Underneath the play of top and bottom, there is a deeper play of learning how to TRUST your partner and how to fully serve and take care of your partner.
For the nervous ones (and I know you are out there!), it’s important to realize the role that TRUST plays for partners who choose to engage in this sort of sex play. The Spiritual Magic (S&M) of Tantra then, is really more about how you can learn to TRUST each other and serve each other; and at the same time appear to use roles (not props) of power and surrender or dominant and submission.
What are the benefits of swimming in these waters of the S&M of Tantra? Well, for one, learning to surrender requires partners to be highly tuned in to one another, and consider the other person’s sexual and emotional vulnerabilities. This element of the S&M of Tantra also helps lovers explore their masculine and feminine sides, and it can also be very healing, especially those working on TRUST and control issues. It is never about doing what you want to do to the other person, without considering your partner first. It is to solidify a strong foundation of TRUST and honesty. And if you think you have little interest in the S&M of Tantra yourself, think again and take a closer look at your sex life. If you have ever pinned down your partner's wrists against the bed, tugged on their hair, or bit a shoulder; you have clearly, dabbled into the simpler, milder ways for the S&M of Tantra, by expressing desires that could eventually lead some of you to devote closet space to studded leather, lol! And that my sexy friends is all fine and dandy. The point I'm trying to make here, is that when you TRUST your spiritual self during sex; it turns into magic! The tricky part is figuring out where the pinning, pulling and biting is coming from; because if you don't know; take the S&M of Tantra play to the next level. Where is that? Via your one and only (me) for extended practices & learning segments.
Okki dokki my spirited magical lovers of sexual revelations; it was once again my passion to send you off with more permission to explore your spirit in that magical way!
See you next time
oxoxoxoxoxo
